I have been meaning to write about this very topic because it happened to me. I was a victim of a bully in a professional workspace for a prolonged period of time over six months. This whole ordeal was very stressful and it sucked the life out of me until I could not function.
This article explains everything that I went through. Hopefully this article will help educate others that are in a similar situation, know that they are not alone and there is a way out.
On the bright side, I have had the time to focus on my wellbeing, and start my own business.
Life is like a camera.
By Laura Newcomer
Bullying isn’t just for kids. Far from being confined to the playgrounds of our youth, bullies roam the halls of our offices and other places of work as adults. In fact, workplace bullying is so common that up to 35 percent of workers in the U.S. or around 54 million people report being bullied in the office, while 15 percent report witnessing workplace bullying.
Whether you’re a target, a witness, or a supervisor of a bully, here’s what you need to know to cope with bullying in the workplace successfully (and professionally).
Workplace bullying is serious business, especially for the targets of abuse. Whether you’re the supervisor of a bully or you’ve been singled out by one, it’s important to prioritize the wellbeing of the victim and the office as a whole. Make it a policy that bullying won’t be tolerated at work, life, or anywhere in between—whether that means advocating for yourself or your employee or walking away.
What Is Workplace Bullying?
According to the Workplace Bullying Institute, workplace bullying consists of repeated, harmful mistreatment by one or more perpetrators who target their victims with conduct that is threatening, humiliating, abusive, isolating, and/or sabotaging. More than 50 percent of bullying is committed by perpetrators who outrank their targets; around one third is conducted by the target’s peer(s).
Common bullying behaviors may include:
While anyone can be a target of bullying, typically targets possess positive traits such as being kind, cooperative, well educated, well liked by upper management, or skilled at their jobs. Perhaps partly as a result of their amicable demeanors, targets suffer greatly at the hands of bullying coworkers. Symptoms of workplace bullying include:
The important thing to remember is that no matter how miserable a target may feel, they still have worth and agency. Read on to learn how to cope.
How to Cope with a Workplace Bully if You’re in Charge
As a supervisor, you may be responsible for regulating workplace bullying even if you aren’t directly involved in it. If you notice an employee is either the target or the perpetrator, it’s your responsibility to step in and create a healthier work culture for the whole team. Here are some tips to initiate that process:
How to Cope with a Workplace Bully if You’re the Target
When you’re the victim of a workplace bully, it’s easy to feel helpless—in fact, bullying is designed to conjure feelings of vulnerability. But there are ways to address bullying and create a better work environment. Start with the actions below.
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Jennifer Estevez, M.Ed.